The word intimacy means a close familiarity or friendship. A closeness, attachment, or confidence. I read something the other day that was poetic to me. It said intimacy is not just about physical touch, but who you share your dreams and fears with. The sole person you give your attention to even when you have a number of other people seeking it. It is the person who has a place in your mind even when your thoughts are invaded with chaos. But, the problem that many of us have is that we are trying to offer that level of intimacy to others when we haven't offered it to God first.
About two months ago I began studying the Biblical meaning of "know." The Hebrew word for know is yada (yaw-dah'). In many instances in the Bible when it's recorded that someone knew another person, it is in the context of sexual intercourse. To me, that speaks to the intimacy of the word. It says that by allowing someone to know you on that level, you are in essence letting them in on a deeper regard. You are, in a way revealing your heart to them. This is a concept that I have struggled with. How much do I let people in on? How much of myself do I share without the fear of feeling violated? Because when I share intimacies about myself with other people, I expect them to hold it near or to protect it but time and time again when they haven't, I felt a deep sense of hurt. That's one reason the Bible admonishes us to guard our heart because out of it flows the issues of life. One translation even says that from it (the heart) flows the springs of life. In other words, it is the source of everything else in our lives. Our heart overflows into thoughts, words, and ultimately actions. That is why we have to be careful who we choose to share our heart with. The wrong connections can cause us to become contaminated. If you've ever seen a natural spring, it's a pool of water that flows to the surface from underground. These pools then flow into streams and creeks and are carried into larger water systems. So if there is a contaminate that is introduced into the spring, it can affect the whole source. Such as it is with the well spring of our heart. If our heart becomes toxic; it can spread to our family, our friends, our careers, or cause anything that we touch to become unhealthy. We can protect our hearts by: Taking control of our thought life- "The thought is the father of the deed" What you think becomes a part of who you are. The Bible says as a man thinks in his heart, so is he. We have the authority to cast down thoughts that do not align themselves with the knowledge of Christ. Don't allow negative thoughts to contaminate your well spring. Storing the word of God in our hearts- We are told that we should store His word in our hearts that we don't sin against Him. The only way to know what God wants for us is to spend time in His word. When you begin we study His word, you develop a relationship with Him and begin to know His heart towards you. Ask God to reveal your heart to the right person- Stop spending time becoming involved with people who are emotionally unavailable. We overlook all of the flashing stop signs just because we don't want to make our flesh uncomfortable and WAIT. If you seek God first, He will reveal your heart to the right person. Abraham prayed for a wife for his son Isaac and God answered his prayer with a sign and a drinking jar (Gen. 24). He may not come down to you with nailed scared hands, touch you on the shoulder, and say that's the one, but He will give you peace in your heart about your decision. The most important thing is that we can't continue to desire intimate relationships with other people without first building a healthy relationship with God. When we learn how to create an intimate relationship with Him, it will trickle into all other areas of our lives.
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Ranch
10/1/2015 07:23:08 pm
Wow, I needed to read this! I'm going through some very dark times in my life right now and your blog really opened my eyes up to those things. I love you Honey, keep up the great work!
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Kelley Butler
10/1/2015 07:27:50 pm
Marshunda...this is really good! And it is very true. The right connection with God leads to the right relationships. When we learn of Him we tend to think twice about how we treat others and how we treat ourselves.
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Jeanette Carrigan
10/1/2015 08:33:45 pm
Great!!! I'm waiting on your book
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Avis Davidson
10/14/2015 07:52:01 pm
This is a very good posting. I look forward to reading more. I definitely believe in having that intimate relationship with Lord. I dwell in my secret place frequently. It has brought growth, peace, and security with Lord. Continue allow the Lord to use you. You are truly annoited!! Love you and God blessed!
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