I prayed for a husband and the Lord kept showing me…ME. I began to pray harder and more fervently and even then He kept showing me myself. After experiencing divorce and painful failed relationships, I started to think “Lord is this Your way of telling me that marriage is not in Your will for my life?” But then I began to realize that God knows that I desire to be married. He knows that it is also my desire to marry a man that loves Him first and will seek to love me the way that He does. It is not that He does not desire those things for me; it is that He wants me to spend this time preparing myself for the man that He has chosen for me. 1 Corinthians 11:7-9 reminds us that the woman was created for the man, not the man for the woman. Now hold on all of my strong independent women….don’t lose me here. Although the Bible suggests that we are the weaker vessel, it does not suggest that we are less. In fact, this passage in 1 Corinthians speaks to how esteemed we are in our relationships. It says that we are the glory (something that brings praise or honor) of man.
It goes way back to the story of Adam and Eve. We find in Genesis where God had already created the Earth, given Adam dominion over everything, and given him the task of naming all of animals. The Bible says that out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every fowl of the air, but when it came to Adam there was no one who complimented him. Realizing this, we’re told God caused a deep sleep to fall upon him and while sleeping, God took one of Adam’s ribs and created Eve, a helper fit for him. The creation of Eve speaks directly to her function. In the natural sense, the function of the rib as it relates to the ribcage is to protect and support. That is also God’s intention for the woman as it relates to the man in marriage. How does she do that? She protects him by covering him in prayer, she walks beside him supporting and encouraging him, and she builds him up. That is the function that she was specifically designed for. So when we as women begin to seek God for a husband we must understand that just as the man has great responsibility so do we. Many times we’re asking God to give us a husband while He is still developing in us what we will need to hold up the man that He has for us. I know that God knows everything about me. He has predestined me even for the man that He would have me to spend the rest of my life with. None of my past life experiences have come as a surprise to Him. Every situation in my life has been divinely orchestrated to form me into the woman that I am today. So in seeking God for a mate, I began to say Lord what is my function? The Lord began to show me that many times even in our singleness, He is developing us with what we need to be a blessing to our husbands. In the last year I have developed a very strong prayer life. There were times when I could not sleep and I would immediately begin to pray. One day the Lord revealed to me that He is developing a prayer life in me now because when He sends the man that He has for me He wants me to be equipped to pray over him and intercede on his behalf. On yesterday, I heard the man of God say that like David, there are times when God will anoint you NOW for AFTERWHILE. You might not understand it at this point in your life, but God is setting you up now to carry out what He has destined you to do even beyond this season. You must know that God has not forgotten about you and it is His will that you have the desires of your heart even as it relates to marriage but know that He wants the best for you and He also wants you to be at your best. God might be calling you to WAIT because He is developing you. We have been given MANY examples in Scripture of believers on whom God called to wait-Abraham, Sarah, Jacob, Joseph, and Hannah to name a few. Their time of waiting on God’s hand was an integral part of their walk with God. The Bible exhorts us repeatedly to wait patiently for the hand of the Lord to work in our lives. It is human nature to think of periods of waiting as holding patterns with no discernable value. Instead, Scripture teaches that there are great blessings to be had in the actual waiting period. But, you must understand that the principle of Godly waiting does not mean being stagnant. You must be busy working to prepare yourself for the person that God has for you. The Bible tells us that No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly (Proverbs 18:22). God wants to bless you but if you want Him to send you a God-centered relationship, you must begin working now to live God- honoring lives so that when He sends you your mate you will be ready.
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Regina
6/29/2015 06:52:37 am
This right here....thank you for the reminder.
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